Who are some of the best people to learn about teen anger management? Lawyers. Don’t you just love to hate them? I think a lawyer is the most despised profession on the planet. I never understood why, but whatever you think about lawyers, know one thing, they can put you in your place–with wit and verbal skills. And all lawyers know one rule that should never be broken. “Never ask a question you don’t know the answer to”.
This is what parents must adopt when dealing with their quick witted teens. Teens are good at arguing. Teens will pounce on any opportunity to argue. They’re good at it because they are on the front lines of the arguing war every day (High School). Parents forget how to argue after they leave their adolescence years because most adults develop humbleness somewhere around the age of 22. Parents it’s time to get your mojo back.
Getting back to teen anger management, and to “Never ask a question you don’t know the answers to”, prepare your question before you go into a verbal battle with your teen, because face it, it feels like a war when your in the mist of it. What questions should you prepare for? I don’t know–only individuals can answer that. Every situation is different, so this is something you’re going to have to look deep in yourself to figure out. I do know some questions that I prepared for when confronting my teen daughter. Last week I asked her…
“Did you understand your questions regarding logarithms?” If she says yes, and I know she will, my next question that I had already prepared myself to say “Will you explain it to me”. This will calm her down. Why? Because she loves math, and any math related question will get her to joyfully come alive. Once her defenses are down, I can get more deeper, concerned questions answered.
This does not work with her younger seventeen year old sister. With her my questions will be more targeted. With her it has to be more artistic (music, make-up) “Did you learn your new band piece flawlessly”? If she responds with “yes”…I know she will say yes. My next question will be “Will you play it for me”? She will skip to her bedroom with the biggest smile; she will come back to beautifully play a tune on her flute. And once again I have hit her in a soft spot. Right after this she will tell me anything. When I learned this one easy to use teen anger management technique, I gained clarity.
Although it seems like you have come to a dead end regarding your teen anger management, know that there is a great offer available here [http://www.helpforteensonline.com]. This method has given me power over the situation. It has taught me how to remain calm and to know myself first.
“Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured”…Mark Twain
Marcus A. Leverett is a proud father and mentor to three lovely teenagers. He loves to read and write, is an avid cat lover, and a devoted Tennessee Titan fan.
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